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Comment on Valentine’s Day 2012: Why I Don’t Deserve Her by Katie

Katie — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 20:40:32 +0000

I do agree with you as well, that it always depends on the intent of our actions and how we present them to other people. We must be clear with the other person and respect one another enough to protect eachother’s hearts. I guess your post just hit close to home and I just felt moved to share my thoughts about my personal situation. None of us really deserve any love that we recieve but that’s the beautiful thing about it…it’s a gift that we recieve from God. It is really easy to be overcome with fear or to have doubt hold us back from giving others love, but we must always know where we recieve that love from in the first place. (1 John 4: 18-19) Thank YOU, once again for always being so honest and vulnerable in your posts! I always enjoy reading what you have to say.

Comment on Valentine’s Day 2012: Why I Don’t Deserve Her by orijinalbrand

orijinalbrand — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 19:33:51 +0000

Hey Katie! Thanks so much for your poignant response. I definitely agree with the points you have outlined. As this was a shorter post, I didn’t go into the varying dimensions, but I was indeed focusing on the aspect of intentionality. I definitely believe there can be great friendships of love between platonic friends. I was arguing more about the importance of intentionality especially so as to protect the other person’s heart. I think when it comes to marriage, one of most important aspects must be each side’s willingness to protect the other’s heart. That, of course, isn’t mutually exclusive from the entire concept that God will indeed be sovereign over all. Even as humans, we’ll fail, but He will redeem and as broken beings, we will rely upon only Him. Really appreciate your thoughts and opinions! Thank you!

Comment on Valentine’s Day 2012: Why I Don’t Deserve Her by orijinalbrand

orijinalbrand — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 19:20:07 +0000

Hey Shanella, I appreciate your feedback.

Comment on Valentine’s Day 2012: Why I Don’t Deserve Her by Ann

Ann — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 11:56:10 +0000

While I agree that any long lasting friendship requires work and steadfastness, when it comes to a guy-girl friendship, it may not be so easy to “stay and work it out”, especially when feelings are involved. I think one can stay in the friendship only when clear boundaries and intentions are stated, otherwise, brotherly love can be easily misinterpreted when the lines have not been clearly drawn.

This post comes at a timely time, Jae. Many of my friends and I have been speaking on this topic of guarding our hearts. In all honestly, this post does not just apply to men. Us women do the same thing to our awesome guy friends, who in our minds we have put in the friend zone long ago, but love the attention we receive from them and do not make our intentions and feelings known at the outset. Not to say that relationships cannot be formed from relationships, sometimes that is the best way. But no matter what, it is always good to guard one another’s hearts – and it goes both ways.

Comment on Valentine’s Day 2012: Why I Don’t Deserve Her by Katie

Katie — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 02:31:12 +0000

While I admire your honesty and truth, I also disagree somewhat. Having been the woman on the other side, if that man is truly a dear friend whom the woman has grown to love, it would be more cowardice for either person to flee from the situation than to stay and work it out as a loving friendship (according to what true love is as in 1 Corinthians 13). I cannot speak to what you have specifically been through or what others have done, but I do know how I felt in my situation and I know that if I lost that man as a friend, then I would have suffered much more. It’s not an easy road to balance the “happy medium” but love is love, and I think this world needs more love as a result of true friendship…loving with no strings attached. Just loving as Christ loved without an expectation of getting something in return…so I try to never hold back and then must trust God to handle the rest, especially our human emotions.

Comment on Valentine’s Day 2012: Why I Don’t Deserve Her by Shanella

Shanella — Tue, 14 Feb 2012 18:53:55 +0000

Such an excellent post. I don’t think I’ve ever heard a man admit this and it’s refreshing to read.
I feel as though, in these situations, the women are usually “blamed” for being the ones that get emotionally attached … and it’s difficult when men seem to get away with the “oh, I didn’t know” excuse. So, thanks for this. Best wishes!

Comment on Valentine’s Day 2012: Why I Don’t Deserve Her by Nathan

Nathan — Tue, 14 Feb 2012 16:57:14 +0000

Great post! Yes, a true man would never play with the heart of a woman… on purpose or even unknowingly.

Comment on Valentine’s Day 2012: Why I Don’t Deserve Her by beedeekay

beedeekay — Tue, 14 Feb 2012 16:18:42 +0000

hey dude, really enjoyed this…..easy to forget sometimes what it really means to man up….

Comment on 26 Reflections On Turning 26. by llee

llee — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 02:15:49 +0000

I am really thankful I came across your blog today. Your reflections are thoughtful and well thought out. It really helped me on many levels.

Comment on Gentlemen, be Vulnerable. by A Loneliness Observed « orijinality

A Loneliness Observed « orijinality — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 22:10:26 +0000

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